My best friend and I are control freaks. We used to joke that we didn’t see a problem with it. Hey things got done didn’t they?! And well right?! And the way we wanted them to didn’t they?! And everyone was happier weren’t they?!
Omg want to amp up your control freak ness?!
Have kids! Have three! Have three that come from two people who are VERY strong willed.
Control freak times 100.
Last week I was stressing out about the kids and what they were/weren’t doing.
Someone calmly said to me “Jen, God’s got our kids.”
I had this overwhelming sense of peace come over me because he was right. Our kids are on loan to us from God. He has plans for them to walk their own journeys. They have to because God has testimonies He needs them to share so they can be a part of helping others to heal through their pain.
It’s hard for us to watch our kids go through hard times. We want to fix it. We want to protect them. We want to put them in a bubble.
And that is true of anyone we love right? When I was trying to control people, I did it because I wanted them to be happy and I thought if they did it my way, they would be happier.
But this isn’t what God wants for you. He wants you to let Him be in control so that you can have peace.
Friends, being a control freak comes from some place in your story.
Maybe you grew up in a chaotic home like I did and my kids are (for now but not for long).
Maybe there were issues early in your marriage that brought this on.
Maybe it’s financial, maybe it’s loss of a loved one. Maybe you were bullied when you were younger.
Maybe it’s a divorce when you were a kid and a new stepmom coming in and taking your place.
I don’t know where your need to control comes from, but God does. God wants you to know He loves you and He sees your pain. He wants you to know that you can lay down the heavy chain of control.
Why?
Because He has everything you need. Everything.
He wants you to live a godly life not because he wants to take your fun away like I always believed. But because He wants you to have the peace that only He can provide.
Something special happens when you do this.
You get better.
You become a better wife. A better mother. A better sister. A better daughter. A better friend. A better business owner.
You get the gift of truly seeing people for how God made them. You get to see the gifts they bring to the table and into your world.
So my questions to you this morning are:
First, who do you need to forgive for bringing these control issues into your life? For me it was my parents. I have forgiven them but will ask God again just in case there’s some crap left there.
Second, who or what do you need to give up control of? Your kids? Your husband? Your business? Your finances? Someone who doesn’t agree with you politically? A child that is going down a path you don’t agree with?
Lay it at the foot of the cross. Our yoke is heavy, Jesus’ yoke is light. Give it to Him. God wants you to be better. He wants you to feel better.
Third, when you find yourself wanting to control, pray and then repeat out loud: I have everything I need.
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